There a a million ways to skin a cat. There are also a million ways to relax. The issue becomes some of the ways take time, money and removal from our daily lives. As desirable as it is to think about an existence where we were able to take unlimited days off or had never ending funds to use for massage; this is far from the reality most of us live. It is time to find ways to relax that are everyday accessible and free!
We are taught to give and give of ourselves to others. And this is good practice that will have fulfilling rewards, but giving to others must coupled with giving to ourselves. This is about investing time and effort in the important habit of self-care. Healthy eating, exercise, stress management, mindfulness and authenticity are important parts of life. The hard truth is if we do not take care of ourselves, we will not be fully about to give our best effort to others.
To achieve the runners high, the runner just needs to intentionally focus on the breath and be in the moment. Train the mind to use your time running as a time to improve the health of your body and the peace of your mind. By doing this the runners high can become accessible to everyone, just not the elite distance athletes. Even better news might be that you can achieve a version of this runners high any time you concentrate your mind on your breath and stop the internal noise that is so disruptive to our inner peace.
No, this is not some new diet fad. Salt water is the nucleus of my stress management philosophy. I have a saying hanging on the wall in my home. It says the cure to every thing in life can be found in salt water; sweat, tears or the sea. At first I thought this saying was cute; I now think it is profound.
The concept of vacation is often misunderstood. Modern media assists us all in having visions of clear blue waters and white sand beaches. While these things can be part of a vacation, they are not a necessary part. So exotic travel, while it might be nice, is not actually required. In fact, vacation can be something simple and close to home. Anything that gives you a break from your everyday routine can be a vacation- at least from a psychological perspective.
And then it happened. I got a rejection. And you know what.... while people were saying, "oh, I'm sorry", it validated me. I am no longer a person who dreams of writing but spends all my time working doing something else. I am a writer trying to get published. I am not talking about writing or thinking about it or dreaming about it.
I am doing it. I am failing at it, I am learning in the process... and it feels damn good.
Once you are on the edge of your comfort level, you experience personal growth. Often this growth looks like failure and the lesson you learn from the experience. The next time you attempt to push your limits you are starting from a different mark. You know more, you are different; forever changed for the experience you had embarked upon.
By remembering we are not able to change other people we can stay strong and focus on our professional responsibilities instead of the personalities in the workplace. Remember, the only person you have the power to change is yourself. The best way to reduce the nastiness of the work environment is to ensure you are not part of the problem